Therefore, the melodramas used to have the illusion that does not change, that is “frozen” time and that everything is under control. Our psyche needs these melodramas to keep anxiety at bearable levels. It is like going to see for the first time a movie where you do not know what will happen at the end. This uncertainty, it causes some discomfort or anxiety for fear of the unknown (drama). But if you’ve seen the movie several times, as you know what will happen (Melodrama), the anxiety disappears. As we see, the melodrama is always a safe play because you always know what will happen, but it is impoverishing, because you never think of anything new. Freedom for security is changed (better known evil that good to know). The strangest thing in psychological terms, is to find a man married to a woman is always a mother with a son, two brothers, a father with a daughter, a sadist with a masochist, etc.
That’s why when an executioner there will be a victim when a parent has a child will are complementary and necessary partners, who “seek” to “pull” each other, enacting the corresponding melodrama. If I am an expert player mus., Surround me “accomplices” to play the domino game. If someone offers to play poker, I’ll refuse because I can not risk the anxiety that gives me the unknown and fear of losing. We know that the melodrama is perpetuated by accomplices who give the reply melodramatic allowing play to continue. The resolution of any conflict melodramatic happens to change the “melodramatic accomplices” to “dramatic allies.” We need to find healthy people who do not enter the game proposed to them an accomplice. The first dramatic ally must be the therapist.
This should help the patient to realize the “consensus accomplice” in which it moves, identifying those games impoverishing and limiting, that the patient is unconscious, is a thousand times. After identifying the game or melodrama, must be helped, through interpretation, to see the actors or “accomplices” of the melodrama in question. Subsequently, the technique of “repeat differentiating to stop repeating” we have to show him the way to get rid of those “accomplices” and begin to surround himself with “allies” who are you going to help address the new and unknown called “life.” In a previous statement I spoke of a man who was accumulating university. A its melodrama I christened him the “eternal teenager.” To fully represent, needed accomplices would permit. Where melodramatic accomplices were his parents. He was caught in not grow and remain the eternal teenager. Dominating role, he reinforced his “accomplices” and he was addicted. This patient delayed their growth and independence all it could. In short: he refused to live the “drama” of life. Each melodrama itself contains one or more conflicts. In this example, we saw that the nuclear conflict was the fear to grow, but within this core, at least there were two other conflicts, which were the fear of separating from parents and the fear of entering the competitive adult lives. Therefore, it is quite common in therapy, have to work in tandem with parents, children, boyfriends or girlfriends of patients. Because in general these unconsciously, constitute a “consensus accomplice” of the patient, to be “weakening” for his release dramatic. L permitted total or partial reproduction, provided that mention the author and source.
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