The Illusion That Everything is Under Control

Posted September 3rd, 2010 by . Comments Off.

Therefore, the melodramas used to have the illusion that does not change, that is “frozen” time and that everything is under control. Our psyche needs these melodramas to keep anxiety at bearable levels. It is like going to see for the first time a movie where you do not know what will happen at the end. This uncertainty, it causes some discomfort or anxiety for fear of the unknown (drama). But if you’ve seen the movie several times, as you know what will happen (Melodrama), the anxiety disappears. As we see, the melodrama is always a safe play because you always know what will happen, but it is impoverishing, because you never think of anything new. Freedom for security is changed (better known evil that good to know). The strangest thing in psychological terms, is to find a man married to a woman is always a mother with a son, two brothers, a father with a daughter, a sadist with a masochist, etc.

That’s why when an executioner there will be a victim when a parent has a child will are complementary and necessary partners, who “seek” to “pull” each other, enacting the corresponding melodrama. If I am an expert player mus., Surround me “accomplices” to play the domino game. If someone offers to play poker, I’ll refuse because I can not risk the anxiety that gives me the unknown and fear of losing. We know that the melodrama is perpetuated by accomplices who give the reply melodramatic allowing play to continue. The resolution of any conflict melodramatic happens to change the “melodramatic accomplices” to “dramatic allies.” We need to find healthy people who do not enter the game proposed to them an accomplice. The first dramatic ally must be the therapist.

This should help the patient to realize the “consensus accomplice” in which it moves, identifying those games impoverishing and limiting, that the patient is unconscious, is a thousand times. After identifying the game or melodrama, must be helped, through interpretation, to see the actors or “accomplices” of the melodrama in question. Subsequently, the technique of “repeat differentiating to stop repeating” we have to show him the way to get rid of those “accomplices” and begin to surround himself with “allies” who are you going to help address the new and unknown called “life.” In a previous statement I spoke of a man who was accumulating university. A its melodrama I christened him the “eternal teenager.” To fully represent, needed accomplices would permit. Where melodramatic accomplices were his parents. He was caught in not grow and remain the eternal teenager. Dominating role, he reinforced his “accomplices” and he was addicted. This patient delayed their growth and independence all it could. In short: he refused to live the “drama” of life. Each melodrama itself contains one or more conflicts. In this example, we saw that the nuclear conflict was the fear to grow, but within this core, at least there were two other conflicts, which were the fear of separating from parents and the fear of entering the competitive adult lives. Therefore, it is quite common in therapy, have to work in tandem with parents, children, boyfriends or girlfriends of patients. Because in general these unconsciously, constitute a “consensus accomplice” of the patient, to be “weakening” for his release dramatic. L permitted total or partial reproduction, provided that mention the author and source.

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Posted August 31st, 2010 by . Comments Off.

Before any kind of healthy equilibrium can be achieved in the body, it is essential that the basic healthy state first be established. The key to the foundation of good health and fitness is a healthy diet which must be based on the consumption of nutritious, whole foods in the appropriate quantities. Among those wholesome, life giving foods are vegetables and fruit.

The Dangers Of Plastic Surgery

Posted August 29th, 2010 by . Comments Off.

There is little in this life that comes without risk, and the dangers of plastic surgery are a good example. Most of us recalled by elderly relatives that our lives may be shortened one day across the street, this adage is usually quoted to remind us to live each day to the fullest, and to do things that will bring compliance our lives, despite the risks inherent to many. While it is true that the sensible among us put the inevitable risks of daily life to the back of our minds in order simply to stay healthy, a balanced life is perhaps aware of the risks to pay attention, and that ignoring . There is no doubt that the dangers of plastic surgery are multiple, but its popularity nevertheless continues unabated. These dangers, clearly, are acceptable for many people, and plastic surgery seems to be something that offers potential benefits significant enough for plowing, regardless.

But there is an element of human condition that clings to the principle that ignorance is bliss, I was not going to happen anyway, and maybe there is something to be said for that belief. Constantly thinking about the potential dangers of life only immobilize us with fear. Never have a chance at all, never try to improve ourselves or our world. And while plastic surgery has its detractors and its advocates, surely even those opposed to the surgical alteration of a healthy body can applaud the willingness to take a leap of faith towards something believed in? They say knowledge is power, and making an informed decision is only possible with all the facts at hand. Maybe you decide to continue in the desired route despite understanding the risks and dangers of plastic surgery, but he makes a decision based on something real, instead of mindless belief that things can not go wrong.

Breastfeeding and Weight Loss

Posted August 26th, 2010 by . Comments Off.

However, breastfeeding alone will not reduce weight after pregnancy. It is necessary to combine it with a proper diet and moderate exercise program. Note that it is necessary to get at least 1800 calories a day, while in the period of breastfeeding. However, you should stay away from junk food during this period and rely on food with high nutritional value to maintain the level adequate calories each day. There are many good reasons to keep exercising during the postpartum period. In addition to helping to accelerate weight reduction, exercise can help relieve post-partum depression, improve mood and boost your confidence. Exercise can also “blow off steam”, so it will be better able to meet the demands of motherhood.

Another useful tip is to have the help of a friend or relative to act as your exercise buddy so that you have some emotional support during the exercises. An added advantage of practicing exercises after pregnancy is that it increases your energy level, which is very important when fighting the fatigue that comes product constant care of a newborn. Your overall diet should be low in fat, rich in vitamins and high in fiber. Under no circumstances should practice a fad diet. These diets can be very harmful to your health and can actually slow your recovery after delivery. It is a good idea to set goals when it comes to weight loss and recognize that there is a limit on the amount of weight you can lose during a given period of time. The time right after the birth of a child can be very difficult, it requires many physical and emotional forces.

While it is certainly a good idea to eat healthy, you must make your pace in relation to weight loss. Over time, you will be able to lose the weight you gained during your pregnancy. My last recommendation is that you see on my site one on a new and revolutionary weight loss system with which you can lose 19 kilos overweight by eating foods that you like all day and just 45 minutes of exercise a week. .

Japan and Columbia Success Stories

Posted August 24th, 2010 by . Comments Off.

“Just fifty years, Colombia and Japan were fifteen times poorer than the United States,” Gomez Buendia begins by saying, adding: “Today our per capita income is 17 times lower than that of Americans and 21 times less than of the Japanese. ” Obviously these figures categorical about our growing backlog against Japanese Americans and generate explanations, often related to the apparent superior intelligence of Orientals. But Gomez Buendia strongly rejects this possibility: “This spectacular difference, many people jump to the conclusion that the Japanese are more intelligent than the Colombians. But if you look at things right, a Colombian is smarter than Japanese: no in vain have the world famous live and resourceful, while the Japanese spend rather dull and gullible. ” (Emphasis added.) After reading the above statement we may be more confused at first with the curious and hitherto paradoxical thesis of Dr. Hernando Gomez Buendia. But it is precisely from that moment when he begins the most interesting part of the letter and its consistency with our theme of teamwork: “That’s it: two Japanese are much more intelligent than two Colombians.” That is, our backlog starts from the moment that the others understood that life is a race that is gained at the point of individual virtues but eminently activity group. In Colombia, continuing Gomez Buendia, every Colombian is going to somewhere and that’s good, but Colombia is not going nowhere and that’s bad.

This maxim may well apply to the company which has enthroned vertical and authoritative communication, individual effort in pursuit of individual target, the informal group or the CC to the Colombian made to sow discord rather than planting and constructive reflection generally unhealthy habits that make us have no less than a century advanced than the First World nations. Noting the above we conclude that today more than ever is a need to review the role of the manager in front of his people, which is the end of the day people would be “play all” for its management by objectives and its results. It is not now as accustomed in the past, teams of workers to form “ganasueldos” who prefer to talk about them instead of us, using a lexicon through which emerges, however, their low sense of belonging and, Therefore, commitment to the organization. We know too well the damage it does to a team gossip cafeteria or hallway rumor like a snowball growing rapidly adding more and more fallacies, half truths and truths accommodated. This is, as you can see, a typical situation of the group with low morale and a poor sense of self leadership. By: Alejandro Martinez Alejandro Rutto Rutto Martinez is a renowned writer and Italian-Colombian journalist who also teaches at several universities. He is the author of four books on ethics and leadership and is included in three anthologies of Colombian authors.

Eat Your Veggies

Posted August 21st, 2010 by . Comments Off.

It is a no-brainer that the foundation of a healthy body is an excellent diet. It is also well established that a healthy diet consists of a large amount of fruits and vegetables. Some of the well-known benefits of a diet containing a high percentage of veggies and fruit are lower blood pressure, reduced risk of heart disease, decreased chances of suffering a stroke, protection from some forms of cancer, and a lowered risk for developing certain eye problems and digestive problems. Eating lots of veggies and fruit also affect the blood sugar level helping to curb the appetite, which in turn helps to control overeating.

So how much veggies are enough? According to studies it has been shown that a person should try and eat at least nine servings each day of vegetables and fruit. (That is about 4.5 cups.) Potatoes are not counted in this equation. It is best to try and vary the types of veggies and fruits eaten to assure the ingestion of a variety of vitamins and minerals which are often found in higher quantities of some vegetables and fruits, but less in others.  What to look for in a vegetable or fruit? Dark, leafy greens are great, cooked tomatoes and fruits and vegetables with rich deep colors like yellow, red and orange are good choices.

OK, you are convinced, but how to make sure to eat so many vegetables and fruits during the course of the day? Here are some tips to getting those important veggies and fruits that you need so badly.

  1. Don’t hide the fruit in the fridge. Keep it out on the counter so when you are in the mood for a snack, it’s there right under your nose.
  2. Eat a fruit and a side of vegetables at every meal, each and every day. Salads, stir-fry and other vegetable-based entrees will help you more easily meet the goal.
  3. Go exploring down the produce aisle of the supermarket. Find something new and take it home. Try it, you might like it!

Educators for Youth at Risk

Posted August 19th, 2010 by . Comments Off.

Until now there was a history of working in this type of educator focused especially on preventive work with children and youth in neighborhoods, employment workshops, open centers, etc., as a facilitator of social action since serving associations, but new realities are demanding its intervention in other areas where you notice your absence, especially because it can play a key role of closeness and support that could hardly hold any other professional. We refer to a part of teams in action projects with drug addicts, prostitutes, ethnic minorities, immigrants, etc.. through methadone programs, harm reduction, social inclusion, health and hygiene, social security … From now insist on the role of street education as a necessary instrument in the educational intervention with all these groups. The street educators and are often the only significant adult who can turn young people and other groups when they encounter problems, difficult situations and conflicts. It is true that every day Street Educators incorporate new teams of government (municipalities, communities, etc.), but could be emphasized that private initiative is still difficult to deal with these professionals who end up being the last link in the list of recruitment.

In some associations have disappeared or been reduced educators for not having the support by means of subsidies, even when available the necessary social support. Resources Administration has created, for example for young people still lack staff capable of serving the entire population at risk in a structured and permanent over time. Sometimes it is to tackle the problem with specific actions and to different manifestations of the same, new programs are announced.